Yes it is I again.  LOL!!!  I have a collections of stories that are true to the saying that is if you do not get the help or release needed from the trials, abuses, situations, circumstances of your prior relationships, it makes it that much harder to have a successful next relationship or any other for that matter.  I have experienced this first hand and it was not easy for me to dump the old stuff so that I could really enjoy the newness of any relationship that I found myself in after leaving my first husband and divorcing him.  He scarred me deeply and it showed within every relationship that I got myself into from that point on.  I would just like to help someone so that they will not make the same mistakes that I did when I was trying to find my way through life as a single woman looking for love in all the wrong places.  I had the habit of believing in people that did not mean me any good.  Most were wolves dressed in sheep's clothing.  Deceived usually to the gutter-most.  Because of this and plenty other reasons I dumped plenty and yes plenty was dumped into me as well.  Soul Ties have a lot to do with the things that are dumped so deeply it seem that you will never be able to lead a life through the heaviness of your issues.  But the is hope.  Sometime that hope may seem so far away that you cannot see your way, but there is hope.  You just have to want to do better and becoming bitter at your situation, yourself or at the person or persons that wronged you will help you to make it through all the cobwebs of this thing called life and relationships.  I pray that DUMPING GROUND is a blessing to you as you continue your journey through this life in the attempt to have a happy one. 

Just remember that it gets greater later....and also keep in mind that my books are not for the faint at heart.  This book will contain some content that is not suitable for children so take care not to allow into the hands of anyone younger than trial and tribulation ages.  Children are starting early these days experimenting with sex, drugs and relationships so allow as you the parent see fit when it comes to exposing them to this and any of my material.  if you are experiencing anything in life that you know that your relationship DUMPING GROUND WILL DEFININATELY HELP YOU!!!

THE STRUGGLE IS VERY REAL

Yes the struggle is very real for those of us that desire to relationship differently than we have in or pasts.  It has been  so many years since I have gone through the abuses that were afflicted on me by others, but the residue from those things passed, still live with and visits me on a regular.  It is not easy to admit that I still struggle with many of the negative elements concerning my past relationships, friendships, flings, etc.,  and any or whatever other ships you may want call it.  LOL!!!  I still struggle as though the urgency of that struggle is in the now instead of days well gone by.

There is just something about a good smelling man that my desire for that man is like a craving that can never be filled.  However, attached to those delicious smells are the aftermath of the rage from the abuses of my past relationships with men, that makes me want to go ballistic in the attempt to rid myself of that desire for the thing that smelled good but took part in hurting me to the core of my being.  My longest relationship almost took me under in the worse way.  I wanted to kill that individual and I thought I loved him to center of my being.  It just goes to show you how quickly we can or may even try to get over things when we can finally see them for what they really are.  It may take longer for one person to get over their issues than for another to get over his or hers, but sooner or later after some counseling and plenty of prayer, one just may make it.  I say this because it is still hard for me most times to keep my past mess out of my present relationships.  Look, when you have gone through what I have for most of all of your life, you may develop a very low tolerance for bullshit on a massive level.  And that is part of where I am right now, at the very low tolerance side of the scale.  Life is too short to have to go through the same things over and over again without getting any help for them in the attempt to change what was into what you truly deserve out of this life.  And if you feel as I do, you feel like you deserve to be happy in whatever you may call the rest of your life.  That is where I am.  I am at the happy stage of my life but it still comes at a price and of great sacrifice.  I still deal with a lot of my past hurts and abuses more than I would like to.  But that is just a part of where I have been and the work that it takes to shake off almost half of a century of abuses toward kind hearted me.  I still say that my pain will always be my gain.  But then again at what cost?  Will it be the cost of my sanity?  My life? Love? Patience? Faith? Longsuffering?  My happiness?  I think not.  As I will always state in my work throughout, Life is much too short for bullshit to prevail.  We all deserve a level of happiness in our lives and if we go about it, life, the right way, we can and will have that. 

Remembering that the work that we will need to put in is very real and that is simply because the struggle is also very real.  If you want your life to change and to no longer be used as an emotional dumping ground because of others, you must not use others as a dumping ground for your mess either.  We have to remember that our lives were what they were but the people that we usually take that hard part of our lives out on are almost always, never the individual or individuals that created the garbage in our lives in the first place.  We tend to take out our frustrations on those that had nothing at all to do with our issues.  They were not even there to begin with.  The innocent came along and helped you pick up your pieces when you were still confused as to where the pieces went, but that is the person that usually gets to deal with the bulk of what we are hurting from, still.  Is this a horrible thing to do to the person or persons that have been instrumental in helping you out of your hole?  Yes it is and to use them as your dumping ground knowing the things that you know because you were there for all of it, just seems like a horrible thing to put off on those people that helped or even continues to help you to heal.  But because of your hurt you fall back off into that same way of our past lives as you struggle to come to the realization of what you are really doing to the innocent ones. (I say you but I am referring to myself as well.)

The innocent one(s) usually comes into our lives when we least expect but right on time.  That innocent had nothing to do what so ever with the hardships that we have seen within the realms of our past relationships.  But our present husbands, wives, girl or boyfriends or life partners do have all to do with the happiness that we now experience.  But because of the damage done by our past relationships, we start our dumping process into our present situations.  This dumping process may take all of a few weeks to a month for the normal person in our lives to realize that this is what is going on or that person may leave the relationship wondering what was it that they were not doing that caused us to snap.  You have dumped so into them, onto them the messiness that was dumped into and onto you and you are not aware that you have ran your Mr. or Mrs. right, right on out of the door. 

Some people will stay around forever in hopes that we will one day love and respect them as they do us.  However, the innocent ends up staying just so that you can continue to misuse and abuse them and may seemingly act as though the things that you have done, are doing and will do, does not phase them, but that is not true.  We are all affected by the negative shit that has happened to us.  We will always be plagued by the hurt that grows inside of us due to the things in life that we knew should have been ours but were not because of the unhappiness, the hurt, the pain, the bumps and bruises in our lives...life is not always fair.  But it is not fair to take the things that we have gone through out on others because we ourselves were done wrong.

Was it right?  Hell now it was not right to have had all those things done to you, nor was it or is it right to do those things to others.  Hell it seems almost more than wrong to use someone else as your dumping ground knowing how, what, you felt when it was done to you.  We all have some type of issues that go on in our lives but to take out what you have gone through on the innocent, is not right nor is it healthy for the next person that will get a hold of them.  Somebody is going to need some help if this curse over the lives of the innocent is not broken.  This curse is what seems to turn angles into demons.  The sweet in your life will go sour.  Allow someone to treat you other that what they should treat you and you will spin out and your spin out will not be a nice sight.  Until we can see what it is that we do to those that do not deserve it we will continue to make garbage deposits into them in the attempt to find our own way.  This is a very high price to pay in order to do that.

No one deserves to be abused or used as a regular dumping sight for bullshit, the bullshit that comes from someone else's issues with their past relationships.  This creates monsters and not all of those monster live to change.  Yes the struggle is very real.  We all struggle in or ways but unless we are met with positive reinforcement, we will use negative ones on the attempt to protect ourselves from the pasts that haunts us.  Never let anyone tell you that they do not have a past because if they do tell you that they have not struggle with something, they will be lying.  It is good to know what you are getting into before you fall your ass off into it and it is too late to get out of it.  Hell when things move just a little too fast and you are not given a chance to capture your next breath or even a chance to blink, there is something that the other person is not trying to have you see in them.  Not all of the time does fast constitute a show of or feelings of love!  Sometimes people move fast in the chase to start a new relationship as they try hiding all of the old shit that went down in the last one(s) that they were in so that you cannot see the stuff that they are bringing into your world.  The shit has to get dumped somewhere.  And if it is not dumped on the couch at the therapist's office or even within the holy realm of the pastor's office it is going to be dumped somewhere else.

HATRED CAN CONSUME YOUR LIFE