OUTRAGED BY IT ALL
ADVERSITY CALLED LIFE
THE AFTERMATH--POOL OF EMOTION
KEEPING YOUR SANITY
LIFE AFTER THE MADNESS
WHEN KEEPING QUIET GETS LOUD
YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR ISSUES
The first book, Raising Other Folk's Kids 1, created such controversy concerning the kids tha I raise for such a very long time. So I had to continue with the second book. I was so undone by the utter disrespect from the children that I raised; that I protected; that I loved; that I provided for; that I poured so much into; and tried to make them feel as though they were somebody in spite of their situations. The news of the book traveled but the fact that none of them read the book before trying to defame my name on social media, was simply out of order. The intent of the book was never to hurt anyone. But I did intend to share my experiences as a caregiver to the many children that I cared for during that time in my life. Hell after all they were kids and could not fight their own battles without the help of an advocate. I just happen to be that person. I would not change a thing concerning the things that I have done to assure that they turned out at least an average citizen of the United Stated of America. If they feel that I did nothing for them, that is their story and lie to tell. But as long as I and the social workers and but mainly the Lord above knows better, I am satisfied.
As the only adult available and chosen by their grandmother, I know that I did my best to make sure that they had a good life and that was even though they were raised in the inner city and were told on a regular basis by life, their relatives and jealous friends that they would never be anything, they were taught differently. I did my best to make sure that they had the best that life could offer with what I had and knew to do. But if that is never appreciated that still remains their issue and not mine. I have no guilt, no shame, no regrets when it comes to doing the things that I promised their dying grandmother, mothers and fathers that I would do! I RAISED OTHER FOLK'S KIDS!!!
I am writing this book to help somebody else that has come up against the adversities and the aftermath of Raising Other Folk's Kids just as I have. It is never easy and anyone that says it is has lied to themselves. It is not easy when you have meddling relatives always whispering in the kid's ears the fact that the person raising them is not their mother nor father and also telling the kids that they do not have to listen to the individual or individuals that is providing for them. However, within the realms of the law the folk that they are listening to do not has guardianship over that child simply because the folks stirring up messy discord never tried to obtain any rights over that child. It is a tough journey but there is help! Trust that you are not alone. Although it is so easy to feel that you are. I have felt that I was the only individual going through all of the turmoil that I was because of all of the things that surrounded me and that I was up against. I did not stop to think that there was someone else out there just like me that could be going through similar things or even worse.
Today I can tell you to hang on in there and one day, just one of them may realize that they did go about the entire thing and up against you wrongly and apologize for the hell that they themselves created based on what other folk said to them and not what you did to or for them. It is hard to keep a kid's mind from becoming corrupt when it comes down to the enemy whispering into their ears while you are trying to teach them differently. There is a pull that takes place on the inside of a child that is conflicted by their environment and the voices that rise up against their very existence. The child's display of disobedience, defiance and disrespect all has a root from where this hold on them comes from. A place where it starts but can go undetected for years, that is until something is said or happens to make that child flip--and they will flip.
Just remember to trust that everything is going to be alright. Most often when you do your best and give your liver to another just so they can have a life, you will get nothing in return, not even a thank you; but you can not sit and wait on that thank you for it may not ever come. Just keep moving with your life and soar in spite of the awfulness that tried to drown you while you were busy Raising Other Folk's Kids. You will be rewarded. If not in this life then you will be in the next. God's reward is better than any that any man or woman even a child can give. Please keep a consistent prayer life with God and you can and will get over the hurt. If there is anything that you would like to share with me concerning this book, please email me or post your comments, concerns and or questions on my blog through my website at http://:cassandramcclinton.com. I will respond! I pray that you enjoy this work and most of all that it helps you in some kind of way to deal with the craziness that comes along with RAISING OTHER FOLK'S KIDS!!! God bless.