Sex tips for Clits and Dicks

 

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Sex tips for Clits and Dicks

Introduction

This pocket book is full of little tips to keep it fresh in the bedroom it isn’t a relationship book though I would recommend Act like a lady, Think like a man, which is a good read for ladies and Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, which is a good read for men and women.

This little book is mainly focued on Sex, Sex isn’t going to make you hold on to your partner, but great sex will certainly help keep things alive in the bedroom.

When you have been with somebody for a long time you can almost guarantee exactly what positions are going to get used, it’s become so routine that it happens at a certain time maybe even a certain day and will last for the same amount of time. Mind you that’s the lucky ones that are still getting it. lol

This book is coming straight to you from your every day woman, I am a mum, I juggle the stresses of everyday life like everyone else but I also love sex and I like to keep it alive. Yeah that’s right I’m a woman who actually loves sex, that’s the problem with society women are often made to feel bad for liking sex and are often made to feel like we should suppress our sexual appetite.

Yes there are some women for whatever reason who just see sex as a task that they have to complete to keep their husbands or partners happy. This can be for many reasons bad experiences in life, just simply no interest or their husband or partner just doesn’t really do it for them but they love them and do their duty.

There are many reasons why people aren’t getting it or not getting it the way they want, I could spend loads of time writing about it but let’s just get to the point of why you are reading this and give you some tips.

I’m going to be telling you how it is and keeping it very real so don’t read on if you are faint hearted. ;-)

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Spunky Man

What a sensible/wonderful woman.
I (using Spunky Man on this site)
am a very sensual man who over many years of experience has obtained the
greatest personal satisfaction (far beyond that of ejaculative climax)
in finding out what brings most pleasure to each particular woman (but
she must want to tell me/cooperate , no matter what it is & may have
no idea until caring, experienced exploration).
No matter the
pretense we are animals & in "nature" sex is an expression of the
selfish gene. The job of the male is to impregnate as many "in-heat"
females as possible rather than waste sperm on a non-cooperating,
non-ovulating female. The male ejaculation is forcefully climactic but
nature does not require a female orgasm (any emotive reaction) to ensure
pregnancy. Human soldiers in victory have always forcibly spread their
genes. We humans both male & female may be the only animals to have
females who are "kind-of receptive" to sex even at times when pregnancy
will not occur. The "kind-of" is the problem & it appears a fact
that 75% of all woman never climax/orgasm during our usual sexual
behavior. If they are truthful most woman (beautiful, ugly, construct of
cunt/breasts; size of the male penis, all no matter) have no idea of a
true climactic orgasm. I have made it my life's work to help each
sexual partner approach the goal of orgasm sometimes even continuous
orgasm (a man can never achieve that). The vital component is the mind,
mental not physical. I'd like to hear from women about their needs &
experiences I can be safely reached at
safediscretetrustworthycaring@live.com

Tip 1                   

Talking Dirty and keeping it flirty

If it’s a new relationship it’s a good idea to send raunchy messages to your partner, it’s a good tool to find out what things they enjoy in the bedroom. I wouldn’t suggest doing it as soon as you meet them, unless you aren’t looking for something serious.

Tell them the type of things that you would like to do to them and ask what they would like to do to you. Have fun with it be playful, if you can bring humour to it all the better. It should be fun for both of you.

If you have been in a relationship for a while maybe you could send them a little picture of you in an outfit or maybe something new that you would like to bring into the bedroom put a little smile on their face while they are at work and have something to look forward too.

If your partner is the type to like talking dirty in the bedroom then bring it. That pussy feels good then let her know that dick is big its hitting the right spots then let him know. You want it hard shout it out communicate how you want it.

If you have a partner that likes to be dominated boss them about, shout out commands and tell them what a naughty boy or girl they have been.

Tip 2

Play with yourself

Let’s face it most of you are reading this and saying well that’s obvious. The few out there that think there is something wrong with it and probably find it shameful;

Number 1. You are missing out

Number 2. If you don’t know how you like it how will anybody else. It is a very good way of exploring your body and knowing what feels good to you.

Now everyone is different and like different things but many men will find it a turn on to watch you play with yourself so try and bring it to the bedroom if he likes it.

You could make it seem like he has walked into something that he shouldn’t, make it seem that bit naughtier. Go to bed that bit earlier and let him think that you are just going to sleep and when you know he is coming up the stairs start to play with yourself. This is for those men that get turned on by watching a woman play with herself though there are men out there that seem to think they aren’t doing their job properly if their woman is playing with herself. This could be the case so you need to read this book and get some pointers or just drop your ego and have some fun.

There are women that enjoy watching a man wank; the good thing about watching each other explore your own bodies is that it is a good way of seeing how your partner likes to be touched.

We are often too scared to tell our partners how we like to be touched but it is something that needs to be communicated. There are many women out there that have never had an orgasm and never seem to have one till they reach their sexual peak in their 40s. I personally think a lot of this is due to lack of communication and not being able to fully relax as women’s minds are to focused on how we look while in certain positions or even worse things we need to get done.

In terms of communicating what you like its best to express it like this, “Baby I would love it if you could just rub me just ever so gently here, I Just love it when you tease me.”

Please, please make sure you let him know how good it feels, let that little moan out that you might try and hold in and do it as close to his ear as possible.

The other way of adding excitement is by doing certain games or activities and the looser has to do everything the other demands in the bedroom and don’t be scared to tell them exactly what you want and how you want it.

Tip 3

Dress up and role play

Men are more visual then women they feed off the whole visual experience as much as the sounds and how it feels. I’m not saying women don’t but one of the biggest complaints men often have is that their woman doesn't dress up like she used too.

Find out the types of lingerie and outfits that your partner likes and surprise him with it. Always make the effort to keep it special for the two of you. For those women who don't feel comfortable with your body anymore, doesn't mean that your man doesn't love it. We all have hang ups about our bodies the best thing to do is dress up in outfits that flatter your body and remeber that your man wants you. If you don't feel confident then its time to act it as we all like somebody who comes across as confident in the bedroom it is sexy.

When he comes home from work have candles that lead him up to the bedroom and leave a little note for him to follow the candles and  blow each one out before he gets to you.  Lie on the bed with that sexy underwear and those heels he likes.

That being said men do your part don’t forget to let your woman how beautiful she is and keep doing those little things you always did to win her heart. I can’t state how important date nights are, especially when you have been together for a while. I must also state to you men that when you do those little things like helping round the house, doing those jobs she’s been asking you to do for ages, spending quality time with the children. These little acts are almost like foreplay to a woman, these little acts show us that you care and a woman like me likes to show you how much I care in the bedroom. Sometimes we often take our partners forgranted and forget all the things they might do for us, it’s good to think about the positive things our partners do for us and show them gratitiude.

Go to hotels and restaurants and dress up as different people and act out roles keep it exciting. Discuss each other’s fantasies you like the James Bond then dress to kill and have fun with it.

Yes I know what you are thinking, it’s easier said than done, we would need to get a sitter and I’m so tired after that long day. Well I have one thing to say to you, I have kids, I get tired but you know what will make you feel a lot better having some amazing sex try it.

It’s exciting being somebody else for a day, you can be anybody you want to be that glamour model, Celebrity keeping a low profile, an undercover police officer a gangster, who knows the possibilities are endless.

Tip 4

Toys and treats

Toys, Feathers, handcuffs, blindfolds, food bring all of it into the bedroom please. I think I’m talking for a lot of women here when I say FOREPLAY please and lots of it!

I love being teased, tied up and trying different toys that bring pleasure to both me and my partner.

I appreciate to some men it’s too much anticipation, they just don’t want toys getting in their way, or they have everything their woman needs. Yes I’m not saying you haven’t got what your woman needs but I’m just saying bring in something a bit different.

Some people won’t want to get tied up,  due to certain experiences they may have been through, which is why communication is always vital.

Those willing to give it a try tie your partner up and blindfold them and try using different things that heighten their senses. Bring certain foods into the bedroom such as strawberries and cream. Feed them some of the strawberry slowly and then gently kiss them as you spray cream over their body and lick it off.

You can gently rub a feather along certain areas of their body that you know arouses them and gently blow near their pussy or dick. Get that toy and gently put it up into her while you stimulate her clit with your tongue or fingers and watch how her body wriggles with delight.

Get those bunny ears out while your man is on top and work that clit as you know it feels good, heck if you have a powerful one he might get some pleasure from the vibrations.

The Vibrating cock ring is also something nice to bring into the bedroom you can buy disposable ones, which they are now selling in the pound shop, they are not as good as the mates brand but if you’re on a budget give it a go. Please note that the cock ring is likely to bring the woman more pleasure than the man, and depending on what position you are in make sure the vibrating piece will touch your clit at the right angle.

Go to a sex shop and have a look at the various toys they have together or look om line for toys that you may both like to bring into the bedroom.

Tip 5

Bring a bit of sensuality

Light those scented candles and get out that massage oil, you don’t need to be a trained masseuse to give your partner a massage.

We all love a tryer it is much better than not trying at all. With most things you don’t do, it will take practise. You will learn more about your partners body and how they like to be touched. Make sure you ask them if they would like it harder or softer and what areas they would like you to focus on more.

Listen out to the sounds of pleasure they may give when you try different techniques and write it in your memory bank for the next time.

You could use baby oil, some aromatherapy oil, which may help make your partner more relaxed or natural oils like coconut oil which you can then lick off adding to the pleasure.

I’m going to let you into a little secret to you male readers, the more relaxed your partner is the more likely she is to cum. Also if she has the capability of squirting, oh yes there are real squirter’s out there not just what you see in the porno’s, the more of a build up the more likely you are to see her explode like a volcano.

What I will say to you is if you want to learn how to make a woman squirt then you need to explore her G.Spot and make sure you work the clit simultaneously. Not all women are capable of squirting and I might add might not feel comfortable doing it so this is something again where communication is key.

The thing is many women hold back from squirting as they assume they just need to wee, but if you can feel a build up like you want to cum and your clit and G.Spot are being worked the right way relax and push your muscles and let that clear liquid squirt all out of you.

Tip 6

How low can you go?

First off I think it’s a shame that there are some men and women out there that think oral sex is wrong, dirty or just stripping them of some power if they please their partner in this way. I admit oral sex to me is something that I view as special and should only really be done with somebody you really care about but that is my view.

For you reading this and who want to please your partner then please bow down to your queen and kings.

I personally love nothing more than a man’s head between my legs that knows exactly what he is doing, leaving my legs all in a quiver and cum gushing out of me in anticipation of that dick that will slide in me afterwards.

To you men

As you will have already gathered all women are different if you are in a long term relationship you may already have a good idea of how your woman likes it.

Now it is all about that clit, just start ever so gently licking that clit slowly and move that tongue slowly down put it up in her for a while and then bring it back up to her clit. Make your tongue make circular movements around her clit and then make sure you use no more than 2 fingers in her and slowly start pushing those fingers in and out, as you continue to lick and every so often gently suck on that clit. Then you need to start working those fingers faster having them curved at an angle that is hitting her G.Spot which by the way is located between the opening and the cervix. Make that tongue work quicker keep exploring what things make it so her legs are finding it hard to stay still and she can’t help to let out those moans.

Don’t always have her lying on her back try different positions on all fours, sitting over your face at different angles.

To you women

I strongly recommend getting some flavoured lube as no man wants you tugging at his manhood with some dry hands. Get some lube and lube up your hands before placing it all over his shaft gently start rubbing your hands up and down his shaft with one hand and play with the hood of his dick like it’s your own clit.

Whilst still wanking him start liking on the hood of his dick before you start sucking on it. Then start using your tongue all over his dick try using different movements with your tongue and ask him what he likes. Then go back to sucking on his dick but use one hand to gently caress his balls and the other to rub up and down his shaft. Whilst sucking try and make your tongue make a circular movement especially around his hood from time to time.

When his toes keep curling up and those noises keep coming out his mouth and in some cases eyes rolling in the back of his head you know you have mastered it.

The most important thing is always communicating don’t be afraid to say in a sexy voice from time to time so do you like that but let’s face it their body’s will be giving you a clue.

Tip 7

Porn isn’t just for men

There are many women out there that seem to have a problem with men watching porn. Well it’s only a problem if he watches it so much that he has gone from not knowing the difference from the porn world to the real world. (Or he’s into beastiality.lol)

Thankfully there are other women out there like myself that will watch porn from time to time, hey a girl has her needs too and like I said before nothing wrong with playing with yourself.

Now I agree ladies before you get annoyed with me that a lot of porn does degrade women and there can be some really twisted things that can be seen. The great thing is that you can just choose what you would prefer to watch, me personally I’m happy if I see some good pussy licking going on but that’s just my preference.

Sit down with your partner and watch a porn together let’s face it half the time you aren’t even likely to watch it all the way through. You may find a porno where they give you ideas of positions that you would like to try out.

Tip 8

Positions Galore

Like I previously mentioned you may have been together for a while and can basically run through every position your partner is going to do or maybe your wife is a bit of a prude and will only allow the missionary.

Not tonight read up on the Karma Sutra if you have been lucky enough to manage to get your partner to watch porn with you think of the different positions that you wanted to try.

Take it in turns to dominate and take the lead, I generally like to be dominated but from time to time I like to take command.

Don’t be scared of it not quite going as planned, you’re both trying new things and sometimes you might not have been able to get your body exactly into that position that you wanted to try, keep at it. That is what life is all about, if at first you don’t succeed then try again.

Don’t just keep it in the bedroom, when you are taking your last breath are you going to be thinking of the many times you did it in the same bed in the same room? Try and be spontaneous, in the park in the rain, in the Jacuzzi, on a trampoline who knows, let your imagination take you to somewhere new.

Tip 9

Stay Healthy

Let’s face it getting freaky in the bedroom is some good exercise or sexercise as I call it. It’s good to keep up with your fitness and eating right not just for your health, which is ultimately why it should be more important, but if you have been with your partner for a while you both got a bit comfortable and let things go a little. We have all been there.

How about you start pushing each other at the gym, go swimming or go cycling as a family. Keeping fit and healthy helps your mental state as well as being able to keep it up longer in the bedroom.

Now we often wouldn’t mind having a check up on our general health at the doctors though I know some would fear this too. The British seem to have a massive problem with going to get our sexual health checked out. Well we all have sex and not everything going on down there is always sexually transmitted so why not every 6 months or so go and get checked out?

Just for the record some sexually transmitted infections can get passed on even if you are wearing a condom. You may have only slept with one person so you won’t have caught anything right? How many people has your partner slept with?

Please look after yourselves out there but also have fun and enjoy each other.

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