Tip No 1- Be yourself no matter the pressure to be 'cool'

In this day and age it is every girl’s desire to be termed as the ‘Cool one’ by her peers but more often than not young people tend to overlook their own boundaries in order to satisfy that particular desire. We find that a girl from a humble family trying her level best to be like the one from a well of family simply because they want to be popular in school or in their social circle. When a girl is termed as a ‘geek’ or ‘un-popular,’ they feel unwanted and feel that perhaps there is no need for their existence. If you are amongst the many young people going through this kind of situation then I tell you there is nothing wrong with you! It is easy to feel discouraged and disheartened but you don’t have to be ‘cool’ or popular to be happy. Those who crave for popularity and are proud people shall eventually fall but if you remain yourself despite the pressure you shall emerge victorious and in years to come you will experience the fruits of it.

It can hurt to know that people push you around because you are the unpopular one but as much as it hurts you should never let it get to you. There are dozens of celebrities today that were not popular in High school, and have successfully made it in life to become big names in our society today. I shall highlight a three of them I got from www.buzzfeed.com

Christina Hendricks

She is best known for her role as Joan Harris in Mad Men

“My school days were pretty unhappy. I had the worst high school experience ever. I was a bit of a Goth with purple hair and I was also part of the drama group, so my friends and I were all weird theatre people and everyone just hated us.”

Steven Spielberg

Steven Spielberg is a film director he has directed many films like Saving Private Ryan, Jurassic park amongst others. He has won Academy Award for Best Director for Schindler's List and others.

“I was a nerd in those days. Outsider, like the kid that played the clarinet in the band and in orchestra, which I did.”

Taylor Swift

She is one of the most notable musicians in the 21st century releasing 5 albums since she started

“I remember when I was in school, the whole reason I started writing songs was because I was alone a lot of the time. I’d sit there in school and I’d be hearing people like, ‘Oh my god, this party that we’re going to is going to be so awesome on Friday. Everyone’s invited except for [Taylor].’”

As you can see there are many high ranking people today who were not popular in their high school days and many more who were bullied but today they are the pillars of our film and music industry so never give up now for you never know what the future has in store for you

Tip No 2- Don’t Belittle yourself Because of someone else

More often than not young people find themselves in a situation whereby they feel that because someone said something negative about them they are degraded to whatever level the person had said about them. In this case it makes a girl feel they are not worthy or they feel unwanted by others but let me tell you. NOT EVERYONE CAN LIKE YOU, NOT UNLESS SOMETHING IS SERIOUSLY WRONG! It is a fact that not everyone can like you unless they are lying to you or you are lying to yourself. Identifying your friends from your foes can be quite challenging but nevertheless if you take your time and learn the people in your circle you will eventually be able to distinguish them. Don’t let those negative comments from others get to you all they do is bring you down, when someone calls you stupid tell yourself that ‘I am the smartest of them all’ in other words replace the negative comment with a positive one. It doesn’t matter what they say when you use reverse psychology on the words you will find yourself less and less bothered by them and eventually they will leave you alone. That is the easiest way to beat them psychologically, you don’t have to say it to their faces or out loud just say it in your heart and you will see that also being silent to their sarcastic remarks will draw them away from you.

Believing in yourself is another way to bypass negative thoughts said to you by others. If you believe you are capable of doing something then whatever negative comment someone will say to you or about you it shall not affect you in anyway because you will know that whatever they have said about you isn’t true and therefore it has no basis and it will not bring you down, Quit trying to fight for yourself a quiet battle is a battle already won. You can’t stop people from saying bad things about you but you can stop it from getting to you.

Tip No 3- Don’t be in a hurry to commit to any guy

Aristotle was right when he quoted the above statement that “Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet”. It can be very hard to wait for the ‘perfect’ gentleman but it pays to wait. Having general male friends often helps you know them and understand their thinking better. Young people are often in a huge rush to commit to a guy that they forget that hurrying will only lead to failure or heartbreak. Don’t commit to anyone before you have been friends for a while so that you can study them and understand their character, personality, what they like or don’t like and how they behave towards others , how they react to situations and many more , that way you will be able to judge better and make the right decision later in life. Never let your feelings cloud you’re Judgement because it could be fatal for you. Young people sometimes let their emotions rule them and that is why sometimes when you break up with a guy or something goes wrong you end up saying ‘ what was I thinking’ well the truth is, you weren’t. You let your emotions overlook someone’s behaviour or personality and you made the wrong decision. This is avoidable if you wait long enough to learn a person arguably you cannot really know someone but it helps to know something substantial about them I t can be easy to overlook this now but it does affect a relationship in the future. So don’t be in a hurry to commit to anyone because not everyone that says he loves you actually does. I would advise all young people not to get into a relationship until they are financially stable and have also emotionally grown.